Though there are many parties and events leading up to a bride’s wedding, a lingerie shower can be one of the most fun and memorable experiences before the big day. What exactly is a lingerie shower, though? Most brides and bachelorettes define a lingerie shower as a fun party with the bride and her close friends where attendees are specifically asked to bring bridal bras and lingerie, robes, bedroom toys and other intimate items as gifts for the bride. This type of shower can be as naughty or nice as the bride prefers, depending on her personal preference. The key idea is that these gifts can be used or worn by the bride on her wedding night, honeymoon and beyond.
A lingerie shower is a fun and exciting way to get everyone excited for the wedding day. It’s also a chance for the bride and her close friends to spend quality time together, laugh and make pre-wedding memories. While many bachelorette groups include the lingerie shower as part of a bachelorette party or weekend, it can also be a standalone event. If you’re planning or attending a lingerie shower, here are seven tips to keep in mind.
- Know When to Celebrate
Just like a bachelorette party or bridal shower, a lingerie shower should be an event that occurs close to the actual wedding day. If you’re planning a lingerie shower for the bride, make sure to connect with her family and other bridesmaids so you don’t overbook. This type of shower can be celebrated during the bachelorette party, especially if it’s a multi-day occasion. The lingerie shower is a great relaxed evening activity after a day of bachelorette hustle and bustle. Pop some champagne, gather around in your comfy loungewear and watch the bride open up her new lingerie collection!
- Curate the Right Guest List
Unlike a traditional engagement party, luncheon or bridal shower, the lingerie shower is a more intimate occasion. Be sure to invite close friends of the bride and fellow bridesmaids, but leave grandma and not-so-close friends off the list for this one. Remember, the bride will be opening up skimpy underwear, sex toys and more during the event, so you’ll want to surround her with whom she is most comfortable. Make sure all invitees know what’s going down, the bride’s clothing sizes and what to bring!
- Choose a Venue
Due to the intimate nature of a lingerie shower, the party venue should be somewhere private, like a home, hotel room or Airbnb and not a public restaurant or event space. You want the bride to feel comfortable and at ease while opening her new gifts, which is why privacy is key. Some lingerie showers even include a try-on session at the end where the bride-to-be models her favorite new lingerie looks!
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- Plan a Few Party Games
What’s a bridal event without a few games to liven things up a bit? Make sure to plan some fun activities and games for the bride and her friends during the shower to create a fun and memorable experience. This is also great for party guests to get to know each other if they don’t already.
You might think about turning the party into a guessing game where the bride opens each lingerie gift without knowing who gifted it. This is as much fun for the bride as it is for the other party guests! Once all the gifts have been opened, get together with the bride and think of nicknames for each of her new outfits. For example, you might call a red lace bodysuit “The Firecracker” or a colorful bra and panty set “The Bright and Cheeky.” From there, you can create a wedding night or honeymoon “menu” for the groom to choose based on the list of names you create!
- Serve Festive Drinks and Snacks
No party would be complete without something for guests to sip and snack on. Whether you create a full lunch buffet with sandwiches, salads and desserts or a finger food platter with sweet and savory options for partygoers to munch on, it’s always important to offer your guests a few edible options. However, don’t forget about drinks! Keep the champagne flowing throughout the event and make sure to have non-alcoholic options like water and lemonade available as well.
- Pick Your Perfect Lingerie Gift
When choosing your gift for the bride, think about her personal style and what will make her feel most sexy. You might consider buying her a fun bra and thong set she might not otherwise buy for herself or even a lace bodysuit she can bring with her on her honeymoon. If your bride is more comfortable showing a little less skin, consider a robe with lace detail or even a silky set of pajamas. For the wildcard bride, go all out and give her something that reflects her bubbly and fearless personality, like a cutout bra or even a bedroom toy to spice things up even more. As with any clothing gift, include a gift receipt in case she’d like to switch out sizes or styles.
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- Thank Your Guests for Coming
Though you’ve done the planning and made arrangements for the party itself, the guests have given their time and attention and brought gifts for the bride to make her feel loved and appreciated. A simple gift bag for guests is a gesture that many will remember and admire. If you’re going for a homemade vibe, bake cookies or other sweet treats for the guests to take home with them. You can also opt for an easy lingerie-themed gift bag with items like a pair of panties and a mini bottle of champagne. Your guests will love this sweet and thoughtful surprise.
The goal of any lingerie shower is to help the bride let loose and, more importantly, feel comfortable, confident and ready for her wedding. With your help and planning, she’ll have a great time and create new fun memories with her best friends.